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I'm scared my two kids will be separated
Comment from : Jason Halverson

Ha! Women don't give a s**t about anyone but themselves in a divorce situation
Comment from : Icarus Airways

I'd rather have two happy separate parents than in one house but constantly fights
Comment from : Clarence Medrano

Stay and be miserable together or leave misery behind and find yourself Choose wisely
Comment from : MrEvolving1

What if I can’t afford to leave?
Comment from : Traveling Liz

I have a friend who is going through this, and he is always using his child as an excuse I told him to leave because I was in a household with two parents who didn't get along He got upset and accused me of not caring and wanting them to break up He has been going through this for years before his child was born, and he refused to leave He keeps thinking that he could change her, and I tell him he can't change anyone At this point, I can't tell him anything anymore
Comment from : I love the 80s - love songs!

Wait until after the divorce when the parental alienation starts and the non-stop divorce proceedings A lot of people shouldn't have animals let alone humans
Comment from : James Brack

Great advice!
Comment from : Lupita Carrasco

I cannot express how awful this advice is - you got married - for better or WORSE - no take backs
Comment from : Sherry Kirkpatrick

When you are all the reasons why you should be happy and all the reasons why your adult kids are unhappy It is going to take a forklift of self esteem to get from A to B Trained from the top down to deflect all responsibility for others Worse is I have come to believe them
Comment from : SpiritGuideMe2Truth

You're a horrible woman
Comment from : THE Kids

Divorce is never the answer Stop trying to fix your spouse and fix yourself
Comment from : THE Kids

Should i worrie if he says to me he want to buy a empty cheap lot should i worrie for my safety
Comment from : bridget roq

I agree If you are miserable early on chances are it won’t get any better I wish I had left when my children were young They have only seen me stressed Living with my husband who has mental illness was not easy and still isn’t It sucked the joy out of a lot of things brAlso, anyone who doesn’t like their future in laws now… run far and fast If you sense they will be putting their nose into your marriage at every turn… RUN life is too short to be miserable! Be good to yourself
Comment from : Angela

And what leave a marriage and just go into another one with other problems I’m not leaving my wife just cuz we are stressed out with each other
Comment from : Chad

I’m Going thru this and I’ve told my husband I want out and he just won’t hear it I’m afraid of the process We have separate rooms and we don’t get along we don’t have any intimacy We’ve been together for almost ten years but only about 2 of those were happy
Comment from : Dogmom1

I was a child in a Loveless marriage It was the biggest mistake that my parents could have ever made for my life My mother was bipolar and dad was functional depressed, so they were both emotionally unavailable My mom would ask the children who they wa Ted to live with and would become violent toward us if we said we want to live with Dad I hated my childhood and I responded to the traumas frequently on my adult life's journey 💔❤️‍🩹💔
Comment from : Cleo Thomas

Teach this Shit in School 🎉…🙈🙊🙉🧬
Comment from : J R

NO NO NO 💀
Comment from : J R

This is the beginning of the fall of western Society
Comment from : Just Browsing

I could not agree more with you
Comment from : Ivan Martin

Why do we never get taught to try and stay Over 50 of mums are single in the UK and yet depression and drug taking are larger than ever I feel you should at least start with a pointer to say that it is worth trying You say this at the end of your video Also how do you know how I will act All seems very presumtive and like all media just headline grabbing
Comment from : Peter Sage

What if you just had triplets born 2 weeks ago 😢?
Comment from : Nkomazi Aggregates

Currently in my marriage of 4 years and I feel completely stupid for having proposed all those years ago She was a completely different person before we got married and now she’s crabby, narcissistic, disrespectful, ungrateful, and always finds something to complain about I never cheated, I work a 9-5, pay bills, come home everyday, I love spending time with our daughter, and it still isn’t enough I just buried my father last week and got little to no support from her… IM TIRED! But I find myself staying for my daughter who I don’t want to be away from
Comment from : CityBoyzUp

Divorce DOES scar kids for life, bc at least ONE parent has to abandon the kids These are spiritual side effects There’s very little difference
Comment from : Kee H

Kids never want divorce
Comment from : Aneta

Most people stay out of fear Fear of the unknown They stay out of the devil you know vs the unknown brEven if children were not in the picture, people who are afraid to leave, who are codependent, would stay brChildren just provide a legitimate and socially acceptable reason to stay in an unhappy marriage Finances are intertwined and it's hard imagining going at it alone when one has spent their adult life cohabitating with their legal partner
Comment from : nancydrew5

Women don’t stay for the kids They just fucking leave
Comment from : Paul Sweet

I know a couple who are stuck together because they have to care for their two disabled children (genetic disease) Their marriage was dead long before the kids were even born, ironically, they thought having kids will fix their marriage This sure did “fix” itbrbrMy advice to anyone with healthy children: really don’t hide behind them! They will understand and will support you And be grateful you are not in a situation where leaving is not an option
Comment from : O O

Fuck you kids come first!!! Work on your marriage!!
Comment from : SHD

You should almost always stay for your kids If you're in danger, yes, get out and get help Your children are more important than you are Infinitely It's not even fair to compare Divorce always negatively affects kids except in the case of abuse
Comment from : Martial Apologist

The Alpha Campers (Daddy, Son and daughter trio)

Don't get a divorce Your children come before your needs! And as man the women will get primary custody!
Comment from : The Alpha Campers (Daddy, Son and daughter trio)

Learn how to talk to your spouse That’s the best thing you can do for the kids Even if you divorce and are still angry at each other, that’s still bad for the kids Either way, y’all are gonna have to be friendly, so just stay together and FIX IT
Comment from : Iyawo Monife

sorry but marriage is a institution designed to raise healthy children It has not much to do with the feelings of the people who are married Only in the west do we think it is about us and not the children That is why we are 5x the global rate of single parent homes in the Us and a huge correlation to inmates in prison in the US
Comment from : Ian MacMillan

My parents got divorced after 27 years of marriage, and I’m sorry buttttt it absolutely did scar me for life… I’m 30 still scared they divorced when I was 10…and I feel like all 5 of us kids of theirs literally are scarred and our family was ripped open in such bad ways and it’s horrible bc my parents STILL aren’t happy even after leaving each other LASTLY We all ended up in bad relationships/marriages except ONE of us It really can create a cycle…… :( so sad
Comment from : godlovesyou

I'm so glad my parents divorced Divorce is better than raising kids in a toxic household They might be upset because they don't understand, but they'll probably be thankful when they're older
Comment from : Scarlet

Hardest thing I did but staying the same was even more hard and painful! We were both so miserable No relationship whatsoever emotionally Married over 23 years 4 kids later And last 7 years I just kept ignoring the signs But I got to a point this past year that I said to myself I am been a hypocrite & a liar to my kids and they know it! We separated Still dealing with the divorce part But as parents we are 100 way better parents I actually get along now with my ex-partner I couldn’t stand him When we told our 4 kids we were splitting all 4 from ages 22 to 9 said “yeah we kind of figure that” kids know if Kids can tell when there is true love When 2 people are in love and want to spend time together We were roommates for the last 7 years Best decision I made! Thanks Mel
Comment from : Clover Homes

Look at that Karen talking
Comment from : Deez Nutz

Stay together for the kids - blink 182
Comment from : Surinder Kaur

My husband treats my son and I terribly and favors our youngest He curses out my son and I and is completely narcissistic I’ve been physically hurt by him numerous of times I only stay because I’m worried about sharing custody and leaving my kids alone with him He acts suicidal when he’s upset enough, I genuinely stay with him out of fear I wish someone could give me some advice, i literally have no one to talk to
Comment from : BluSilver

My husband is the bread winner I left my job years ago when my daughter was diagnosed with leukemia I developed anxiety after and depression He puts me down daily and control's me with an allowance for me to spend The rest of the money in a separate account Only he can use It's not fair I would love to wk but I don't have help and he doesn't give me enough money for help I feel trapped and in bandage I pray daily for help or a miracle so I can find a place to run with my kids Thx for the reassurance I pray to be at peace and happy again 😊
Comment from : Danielle Pelletier

It's the financial part, I'm afraid ofwill I be ok?
Comment from : Danielle Pelletier

Marriages last as long as they are tolerated
Comment from : David Franklin

Not getting into conflict "many times" gets to be taken advantage of by the other side I know this from personal experience I did my best to be a father and got ignored Unappreciated Disrespected All because she sees other people's success as our failure There's just no contentment It's a hard choice It's a sacrifice of your real happiness, but sometimes, you have to let it go In the end, it's all for the kids, not wanting them to always feel the trauma of seeing and hearing us in those unhealthy arguments
Comment from : Paul John Usita

For real! "Fighting for your happiness!" Maybe you were not 3 when your parents divorced like I was! How about fighting for your home to not be divided and asking or crying out to the Lord to help and reconcile and heal the the marriage! Remember marriage is called Holy matrimony and what the Lord has joined together let no one separate! In good times and bad in sickness and in health for better or worse till death does us part! Can't listen to any more of this nonsense! At the least wait until the kids are into their late teens! This is very selfish and self centered and I almost forgot in the Bible God says, "I hate divorce"
Comment from : TRUTH JUSTICE & LIBERTY 4 ALL

What’s your advice for women ! Women get demonised and ostracised for leaving the kids with the husband !
Comment from : Gleamingsoul777

Its been 20 years, im 29 years old now, i am paralyzed from my parents divorce, i cant go on any longer
Comment from : bini

What about when she threatens to move far away with the kids Or seems a bit unstable
Comment from : Eric G

Imagine being an adult and thinking the marriage is about you and creating another broken home for a child and the child gets to switch custody every week,,
Comment from : Allen

Nope Stay together for your children
Comment from : ivory

Unless you're in that boat you would never understand
Comment from : April Chow-chee

This is my situation I am stuck in a marriage where I can't stand my husband I thought having more kids would make us closer but that backfired He likes to go backwards and not progress At this point I am literally staying for the kids who are young, the youngest being 3 I am literally building up my 401k to pay for a divorce
Comment from : GinaBina

So, the sooner the better
Comment from : Absalom [Cruks Capacitor]

💩
Comment from : Atilla Sarikaya

She's right
Comment from : Chill Bro

I'm in the same boat
Comment from : Chill Bro

How about you have the difficult conversation with you partner about how you need to fix it? Why not make your spouses needs your number 1 priority? How about you fight for your vows and your family? I fucking hate this world Why do people even get married if it's so easy to throw away, especially when kids are involved
Comment from : Brandon Brock

ACOD Diary: Inner Journeys of Children of Divorce

Hard choices in every direction but saddling your kids with a split family for the rest of their lives and living on a prayer that you're going to "co-parent" better than you parented is not 'being an adult' just my biased opinion as an ACOD Being an adult is being really intentional about having kids in the first place and making a religion of personal growth, kindness, forgiveness and love Otherwise you are telling your children they can have two parents who can't stand each other in the same house or two parents who can't stand each other in separate houses Some kind of bargain
Comment from : ACOD Diary: Inner Journeys of Children of Divorce

No kid cares about your happiness as a parent They are completely dependent on you, and all the love they know is from you It is traumatizing as a child and leads to you creating a generation of children who no longer know how to create a stable household Your idiocy leads to the detriment of generations you will never even met, all because you couldn’t keep it in your pants and use your head a little longer The real answer to the question is you shouldn’t have married someone who you can’t work together with But in this case you are far past that You missed your chance to get off the train Now you have to sit out the ridebrbrWhy does anyone get married nowadays? If a vow doesn’t mean anything and almost half of marriages end in divorce why bother? How can you not have gotten to know this person enough to realize that they are just as much of a shitty human being as you are? And if so realize that and still expect them to be perfect pinnacles of virtue, you’re delusional You are stuck together You made the vows So fucking get over it and work things out
Comment from : Potato Plunderer

2:27 “[divorce] will not scar your kids for life” That’s dishonest Denial of reality There’s loads of statistics out there that speak to what a huge scar divorce inflicts on kids Check out statistics on the likelihood that kids of divorced parents will ultimately divorce themselves, for example
Comment from : SunnyWinterMorning

Guilt and shame will keep ya there thats for sure !!!! This video sure hit the nail on the head!!! Gotta play it few more times !!!
Comment from : Layla “Tiger” Sloat

Thank you I really needed this
Comment from : Mosses

Great advice Instantly received my answer Thanks
Comment from : LifeHackFamily

People like you give THE WORST kind of "advice"brYou are the reason marriages are breakingbrInstead of telling women to divorce and destroy any kind of normal life for the kids, you should tell them that THEY are part of the problem and not just the man, and that THEY need to work out on the issues You are never teaching women RESPONSIBILITY and ACCOUNTABILITY and this is exactly why the western society is GOING TO SHITS, you are promoting irresponsibility, you are telling women to be promiscious, you are telling women they are never in the wrong and its never their fault, that its always the man's fault and IT IS YOU who are making all these women LOW QUALITY WOMEN
Comment from : Kuky

Teach your kids that you and your wife both are losers and telling them never to get married
Comment from : To the Point

And dumb white always go in therapy
Comment from : To the Point

These losers can’t make a decision themselves so they send letter to this old women who just bla bla while day
Comment from : To the Point

I don't think you should stay for "the kids"
Comment from : love and mercy

My parents finally got a divorce when I was 23 Both of them had a lot of issues, but my mom especially was an absolutely miserable person to be around, and I didn't blame my dad at all for divorcing her I can vividly remember being in high school and wishing so badly they would get a divorce so that I wouldn't have to be around my mother and that my dad could be happy too I think there are times when staying together for the kids might be justified, but people need to understand that it's definitely not always the case
Comment from : GuppyPal

men usually get shafted in the family courts, which is why we usually stay fix the laws and help men not have to pay alimony to another working age adult
Comment from : Zorgon

I need desperate help!!!! brbrI have this partner we are not married She is amazing girlfriend In the sense that she is very caring and a good mother to our kid But I just don't feel the connection with her I know she's a great person & to our kid but I'm just not feeling the connection brbrDo I stay because I know she a great person or do I leave? I'm stuck and it's been going on for a couple of years my kids is just 1 year old
Comment from : TkoBallerx

Divorce is to get inner PEACE 💯❤️❤️❤️
Comment from : Asha Vilas

No
Comment from : Alezandra Davila

I can relate all too well I had to move out of our home due to constant fights & arguments the children was seeing this The last straw was when he pushed me Infront ournson The look on my son's face made me feel like a failure I knew I had to leave At first it was very difficult for everyone my kids seem to have adjusted I'm still struggling with the idea of getting divorce even though I will never go back to him I'm worried about how my kids will be affected in the long run
Comment from : kerry williams

If the laws and results were reversed: 80 of divorces are initiated by men (I divorce you because I’m not “happy”), 95 of the time custody/child-support/alimony goes to the father/ex-husband Men get rewarded by the courts for divorcing their wives You’d change your tune real quick, womanbrYou only get to say this garbage because of a biased court system that favors womenbrYou are breaking down society Go look at our jails 90 inmates raised by single mothers brBetterment of children?…My ass😂
Comment from : Electric Shadow

she says Never had to actually do this but here's what you should do,
Comment from : Chris Clearwater

so you think by divorcing, the kids will now see you as happy? Lawyers and courts will remove your ability to "deal with something scary" and I doubt it will be "better" Conflict, disinterest and disengagement can happen in the most successful marriages You have an obligation to do right by your children! Once you have children together you are bound together for life Internet experts are dangerous and mostly wrong
Comment from : cornerbandit

I feel unbelievable guilt thinking about leaving him
Comment from : Graham Maher

How do I tell my 5 year old son that I am not going to live with him anymore? I feel like I will break his heart and he will never forgive me…
Comment from : Graham Maher